Thoughts On Gay Marriage

As a site dedicated to the concept of marriage, I thought it would be prudent to talk about the very concept of marriage itself, especially given the political landscape that has evolved over the past few years. In particular, I want to talk about gay marriage.

For many years, people on the right were so focused on the spiritual aspects of marriage. In other words, trying to uphold and maintain the sanctity of marriage, which (according to the bible) is only between a man and a woman. However, the main problem that I have with such thinking is that a “marriage” is not just a spiritual ritual or event. In reality, your marital status can have quite significant legal repercussions as well. It can dictate how you file your taxes and even affect your ability to purchase a home.

And that gets me to a secondary problem that I have with the concept of marriage as seen by the right. Isn’t there supposed to be a separation of church and state for reasons just like this? If you want to keep marriage as a sacred bonding between a man and woman only, then you need to keep that purely in the religious realm. Or you need to change the law to allow people who aren’t allowed to marry the person they love to have the same rights and legal status as those who do have the ability to marry someone they love.

You can’t have it both ways, and that is where I’m most frustrated with people on the right. Either they are being completely ignorant of the entire situation, or they are purposefully neglecting the situation simply because they want that people who want to marry someone of their own gender have less legal rights, thus giving such people a disadvantage in the real world. If it’s the latter, then it makes me sick to my stomach.

In my mind, as long as you love someone else, you should have the ability to achieve the same legal status as any other couple. It doesn’t matter whether it is a hetero-sexual couple or a homosexual couple. And to be honest, if marriage was truly just a paper document with no legal bearing whatsoever, I couldn’t care less if two men couldn’t get married. And they shouldn’t really either (unless they are particularly religious). Because it would truly be nothing more than a label.

But that’s not the world we live in, and thus marriage does need to available to any and every couple who wants it. Luckily we have made amazing progress over the years and as of today, any couple in the United States can now marry each other based on the ruling of Obergefell v. Hodges back in 2015. This truly fills my heart with joy and reaffirms my faith in love always winning out over hate in the end. And since it also means many more marriages occurring all over the United States, as a firm believer of marriage in general I am quite thrilled about that as well!