One of the best parts about marriage, and about relationships in general is the sex. I won’t pretend that’s not the case, and you definitely shouldn’t either. In fact, sex is not one of the best parts of a relationship, but also one of the most important parts. It helps you and your partner to be intimate with one another, which is a big part in keeping the overall spark between the two of you alive and well. Here I’ll lay out some of my favorite tips about going about your sex lives in the early years.
First off, have sex often. If you want to have a healthy sex life, then having sex frequently is probably the biggest step you can take. Try having sex at least a few times a week, if not once every day. And if you don’t think that is doable, then think again. Because in most conventional marriages, you are sleeping in the same bed. So as long as you both go to bed at roughly the same time, there is always the perfect opportunity to have sex during that time, every single night.
And don’t worry – if you miss a few nights here and there due to being tired, that’s perfectly alright. And if one particular partner isn’t really in the mood to have full-on sex, there is always the option of just foreplay. Some good oral sex is better than nothing, and still serves the purpose of providing sexual pleasure while also allowing the two of you to be intimate.
Another tip is to spice things up as much as possible. Change up when you have sex, and where you have sex to start off. And use the internet to learn about all sorts of interesting sex positions that you can try. This sort of thing doesn’t take much effort, other than a little bit of imagination and creativity, but it really can reignite your sex lives in ways that you never thought were possible.
And lastly, always be safe in general. If you guys haven’t been tested for STDs yet, then that is definitely something that needs to be done ASAP. Even if you’ve been having sex for a while now, there is still the potential for infections to happen (if it didn’t happen already without the two of you being aware of it). And if one of you are infected, be sure to use a condom every time.
Plus, if you are not ready to have kids (or never want to have kids), be sure that you guys are on proper birth control, whether that be the pill, the shot, or even just regular condom usage if you want to go that route. As is the case for both STDs and pregnancies, reversing such events is not so easy to do, so it is better to stay safe and avoid such outcomes from ever occurring in the first place.
And that covers all the basics for making the most of your sex life in the early years. Take my sex tips to heart and you will be well on your way to amazing sex day in and day out, to keep your marriage not only fun, but healthy and thriving for the long haul.